Archive for March, 2008

Depression ~ the silent killer…
March 29, 2008

MY STORY

  

I’d like to dedicate this blog entry to the short life of Kelty Patrick Dennehy.  

The impulse to write about my own past experience of depression and suicidal tendencies has been percolating to the surface of my mind for while now.  It’s a subject matter that goes largely unnoticed and unspoken for most, until someone is directly or indirectly affected by it.  I use depression and suicide in the same context because more often or not they tragically go hand in hand, more than we will ever understand or know, from a statistical sense, and in my own experience there was a seamless parallel between the two very distinct elements.  

When I think of Kelty’s story, or read or hear of a story related to depression or suicide, there is an instant rapport that identifies me with my own past suffering and the suffering of the individual I am reading or hearing about.   

For the first few decades of my life I was haunted by depression and a desire to die.  Whenever things got tough for me emotionally or mentally especially in early adulthood, I would always be internally dead ended with an overwhelming feeling of depression and suicidal thoughts.  My first cognition around the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness were recognized early on in my life as early as 9 or 10 years old.  The feelings of the desire to die, progressively developed too surface around the age of 19 years.  

While my early childhood would seem by most to be absent of any direct trauma or abuse, I now know the power the mind has to internalize un-integrated emotions and thought forms back onto itself in unhealthy ways.  The absence of any resilience enhancing skill in my life for the first few decades, simply allowed the energy of “e”motion to be redirected into a feeling and belief that one of the easiest ways for me to “fix things” was to simply check out. 

I was never clinically assessed as depressed, the memory and details of my own particular narrative combined with my later exploration into the foray of personal growth and Spirituality now provides me with enough reference material and insight, to lead me to have a certain level of understanding around my own personal process and story around depression and suicidal thoughts.  As early as 6 years old I developed an awareness and confusion around my sexuality even though I did not begin my own exploration for another 16 years, when I began to express myself sexually as gay man.  Also, as a child, I was bullied intensely between the ages of 7 to 14…   

In the context of my own experience of depression and what I have learned to date, I would say these two contributing and interdependent factors became the foundation from which the symptoms of depression and suicidal thoughts were kindled.  In spite of a tangible decrease in the bullying factor at around grade 9, or 15 years old, the “damage” had already been done.  I no longer needed the outer bully, because I had internalized the “language” of the bully within and back onto myself and the person I imagined myself to be.  Even now while subtle, the confusion, judgment and lack of acceptance around my sexual identity and childhood experience of bullying continues to be expressed and experienced as a ripple affect, taking the form of  self depreciating, thoughts, feelings, emotions, perceptions, associations and memories that have a life of their own. 

I provide some detailed colour to this picture only as a way to frame this narrative.  In my heart and my present day process, I have realized many of these details as now obsolete; they have become redundant as I have learned skills of emotional resolution, Self love and have learned to redirect my attention not into the pain and suffering of my past but more importantly the rediscovery of Who I AM.  That being said and gratefully received, I also clearly recognize the ongoing suffering that continues to express itself in the lives of others who have or are dealing with the stigma and disease of this silent life killer. 

The worst chapter of my story peaked between 23 and 27 years, where I would go to bed at night and wake up in the morning with the same negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, perceptions, associations and memories that only enhanced and perpetuated my experience of helplessness and hopelessness.  At this time, an ongoing episode of unrequited love and a mother who was dying of cancer pushed me deeply into a quagmire of seemingly irreconcilable emotions that prevented me from experiencing any real joy and beauty that life could provide. 

There was only ever one, very lame and “failed” attempt in my history to take action on my desire to check out; where a casual cocktail mix of alcohol and sleep aids was used too prematurely influence the finger of Gods timetable on my life.  The absence of “real courage” prevented me from further attempts at exploring more successful methods of escaping the melodrama that my story had become.  Instead, I masked those thoughts and feelings; I pursued life relentlessly in an attempt to use an internal zest to combat the dragon’s fire within me.  On the outside I appeared to live a normal life, while on the inside I wallowed in the endless suffering and apathy of my shadow side.   

I am not a qualified expert in the area of depression or suicide; I am a self proclaimed graduate of “e”motion high.  I earned my Masters and P.H.D., in the field of depression in the school of my life.  In spite of the fact I spent the first 28 years of my life infecting myself with high dosages of self engendered curriculum that enhanced and elevated my experience of depression, I was fortunate enough too actually “make it through”, largely in part too an inner motivation and hunger that eventually spring boarded me not into a premature departure, but instead, the world of personal growth and Spirituality at the age of 27.   

My heart is both easy and grievous in the light of knowing the subjective freedom I have now gained from my own story and the experience of ongoing depression that robed me of a simple, idealistic childhood and youth.  The equanimity and understanding I have found within the dearth of my own emotional spectrum while now providing comfort and solace, is often gently disturbed, when I bump into the suffering that continues to ripple through the pages of others, whose stories of depression and its tyranny unfold with similarity and different outcomes to my own…  

                      

OUR STORY ~ THE FACTS 

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for teens in Canada and third leading cause of death in the US. 

Suicide and attempted suicide has increased 300% in the last thirty years. 

Teen/youth suicide rates have tripled since 1970. 

Nine out of ten suicides take place in the home. 

For every completed suicide there are an estimated 30 to 50 attempts. 70% of suicides occur between the hours of 3pm to midnight (when they could be saved). 

Males complete suicide 4 times more often than females. 

Females account for 75% of the attempted suicides (mainly with drug overdoses). 

Approximately one-third of teens who die by suicide have made a previous suicide attempt. 

Males use more violent means, e.g. guns, hanging. 

Only 33 to 50 % were identified by their doctors as having mental illness at the time of their death and only 15 percent of suicide victims were in treatment at the time of their death. 

In 1978, Regina high school students revealed that the majority felt sad or depressed regularly.  50% felt lonely sometimes, 25% felt lonely all the time, 40% admitted to thinking about suicide.  8% said they would commit suicide if they had the opportunity. 

Spring and fall are the months of highest risk. 

An estimated 80% of all those who commit suicide give some warning of their intentions or mention their feelings to a friend or family member. 

In 1996, more teenagers and young adults died of suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza, and chronic lung disease combined. 

From 1980 to 1996, the rate of suicide among African American males aged 15 to 19 years increased by 105 percent. 

For every two homicides in the U.S. there are three suicides. 

Having a firearm in the home greatly increases the risk of youth suicide. 

Sixty-four percent of suicide victims 10-24 years old use a firearm to complete the act.  

Due to the stigma associated with suicide, available statistics may well underestimate the problem. 

From: http://www.thekeltyfoundation.org   

OUR STORY ~ THE SYMTOMS 

The following is a list of common symptoms of depression.  It is unusual to have them all, but several usually develop if you have depression.  

Low mood for most of the day, nearly every day.

Things always seem ‘black’.Loss of enjoyment and interest in life, even for activities that you normally enjoy.

Abnormal sadness, often with weepiness.Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or uselessness.

Poor motivation.  Even simple tasks seem difficult.

Poor concentration.  It may be difficult to read, work, etc.

Sleeping problems:sometimes difficulty in getting off to sleep, sometimes waking early and unable to get back to sleep.

Sleeping too much sometimes occurs.

Lacking in energy, always tired. 

Difficulty with affection, including “going off sex”.

Poor appetite and weight loss.  Sometimes the reverse happens with comfort eating and weight gain.

Irritability, agitation, or restlessness.  Symptoms often seem worse first thing each day.

Physical symptoms such as headaches, palpitations, chest pains, and general aches.

Recurrent thoughts of death. This is not usually a fear of death, more a preoccupation with death and dying. Some people get suicidal ideas such as …”life’s not worth living”.

The severity of the symptoms can vary from mild to severe. As a rule, the more symptoms from the list above that you have, the more severe the depression is likely to be.

From: http://www.goodtoknow.com      

THE YOGA/SCIENCE STORY 

The path to subjective freedom lies in our ability to know, understand and Self navigate all levels of our existence.  When we fixate on one dimension of our existence only, using force or coercion we can only expect more sever ramifications to result from this indiscretion.  We were born to discover Who We Are!  Life is the playground from which we can gain the necessary skills, talents and powers to leverage and engage the field of infinite possibilities with awareness, skillful ease and finesse.  These abilities are for the most part, learned skills.  Ones proclivity to depression whether that be genetic or environmental in circumstance, requires successful intervention on all levels of our existence for integration (healing) to occur. The mind must be attended to.  The emotions must be embraced and the body must be cared for.

I am grateful for the fact that I was able to continue to elevate the journey of my own life to greater levels of fulfillment and meaning. I have known more than one who has not.  When life has no meaning and we have lost touch with the momentum of inspiration that fulfillment in life offers, we are individually challenged to pick up the invitation to reignite its verve.  This entry could not possibly articulate the many thousands of influences, models, theories or perspectives that provide understanding and depth to the story of depression, so I shall focus only on one; stress. 

According to yoga, the body/mind is not just a field of substance or matter.  At its subtlest level it is a coherent field of energy and information that is connected effortlessly to a Universe of energy and information.  From a field of undifferentiated consciousness, life manifests itself as the world of form and phenomena, nurtured by this field of energy and information. 

Our body/mind is the instrument from which we can navigate, explore and connect to this vast Universe; the known and unknown, while cultivating and elevating the gift of our awareness.  When we experience health, the energy and information flows seamlessly through this infinite web of creation allowing us to navigate life with finesse and ease.   

Unfortunately, the kind of lives we now live do not support us on the thinking, emotional and biological levels.  The absence of life enhancing, skills based, resilience techniques allow the build up of stress and toxins in our nervous system that eventually interrupt the free flow of energy and information.  Toxic upbringing or a lack of necessary skill sets to cultivate wellness within the body/mind, leads to toxic lifestyle choices and the gradual breakdown of the vital connection we have to the core of our existence.

Eating good food, exercise and sleep no longer provides the prevention, protection or elevation of homeostasis within our physiology or psychology.  Some of the most exciting mainstream work on depression is occurring in the area of research on the impact stress hormones play in depression.  In severe depression adrenalin and cortisol levels are abnormally high.  When a nervous system becomes overly stressed, we lose our ability to access and metabolize the energy and information that is normally, readily available to us. 

Anxiety and depression cripples our innate intelligence.  When prolonged the body/mind system looses its ability to strategize, we lose our ability to navigate and thrive within the thinking, emotional and biological dimensions of our existence.  The flight, fright and freeze function of our old brain, while valuable when we are faced with life threatening situations, has become a rambunctious and out-of-control, organ. 

In our lives we are faced with daily occurrences that trigger the stress response within our physiology: We missed a connecting flight… and we become stressed.  The cashier at our favorite coffee shop is on their first shift, not been trained properly and we’re already late for work…and we become stressed.  It’s a Sunday afternoon; the one gas station town is piled up bumper to bumper with weekend warriors and someone just jumped the queue… and we become stressed.  There is no real danger here, no actual threat to our existence.  It’s our agenda that has been challenged.  It’s our psychological idea of how things “should” be that has provoked a premature, biological reaction as masses of stress hormones are dumped into our blood stream.

In our daily lives we all experience various degree’s of difficulty in the manifestation of our wants, needs and desires.  We all experience a spectrum of reaction to the perceived threats to our safety, happiness and self-esteem.  Our body/mind dutifully responds with reaction, to these very diverse kinds of stress.  At some point the body/mind begins to break down, our nervous system can no longer tolerate the excessive levels of stress occurring in our lives.

We intuitively know that we have or are losing touch with the core of Who We Are, if only on a bilogical, emotional and thinking level.  Depression is a natural response to the unnatural circumstances of living in the 21st century.  The increasing levels of depression and sucide especially amoung our youth, is a wake up call that requires our attentionThe details are vast and the options diverse, but there is hope.  It lies within the wisdom of the body/mind that appears to be the source of our predilection. 

As we begin to understand the body/mind, as we courageously explore all levels of our existence: the biological, the emotional, and even beyond the thinking dimensions, we will find new ways intuitively and functionally respond to the circumstantial evidence and challenges of our day to day living.  We will engage life not from a place of survival only, but instead, tap into and thrive on the inspiration that comes from living integrated lives, lives where we have learned to connect, cultivate, harness and trust the wisdom within us.   

EPILOGUE

In 1989 I learned how to meditate.  It was my first conscious choice to move beyond the theories and learning’s of an ever growing wellness philosophy in my life.  I was now exploring first hand those ideas experientially.  For the first time in life I was excited not by what was going on outside me, but what was occurring inside: I could touch, taste and smell an ever swelling movement of inner inspiration.  Within about a year of daily practice, I began to experience an inner transformation, emotions and suicidal thoughts had evaporated; the desire to die was gone… 

I could come up with and explore volumes of speculation on “the how” and “the why” of my experience, but that’s not really what’s important to someone who spent almost 30 years of life treading the symptoms of depression.  What’s important is that my life took on dramatic new directions that I could never possibly have imagined or anticipated. 

What’s important is that even the experience of depression is subjected to the same tangible, laws of the world of form and phenomena, the physics of all life experience:  there is a beginning,  there is a middle  and  there can be a successful end to the tyranny of depression!   

SOME SUGGESTIONS:          

Resist the temptation to bottle things up and ‘go it alone’.

Try and tell people who are close to you how you feel. It is not weak to cry or admit that you are struggling.

Remind yourself that most people with depression recover. It is important to remember this.

Do try and distract yourself by doing other things.

Try doing things that do not need much concentration but can be distracting such as watching TV. Radio or TV is useful late at night if sleeping is a problem.

Do eat regularly, even if you do not feel like eating.

Avoid too much alcohol. Drinking alcohol is tempting to some people with depression as the immediate effect may seem to relieve the symptoms. However, drinking heavily is likely to make your situation worse in the long run.

Be very mindful when making any major decisions whilst you are depressed. It may be tempting to give up a job, or move away, to solve the problem. If at all possible you should delay any major decisions about relationships, jobs, or money until you are well again.

Communicate with your doctor if you feel that you are getting worse, particularly if suicidal thoughts are troubling you. 

Seek out specialized resources of supportive, skilled and qualified persons.  

Sometimes a spell off work is needed. However, too long off work might not be so good as dwelling on problems and brooding at home may make things worse. Getting back into the hurly-burly of normal life may help the healing process when things are improving.

Each person is different, and the ability to work will vary. Sometimes a specific psychological problem can cause depression, but some people are reluctant to mention it. One example is sexual abuse as a child leading to depression or psychological difficulties as an adult. Tell your doctor if you feel something like this is the root cause of your depression. Counseling may be available for such problems.

From: http://www.goodtoknow.com 

ALTERNATIVE SUGGESTIONS:

  

Be in your body, learn to love your body: 

Create and engage your own exercise routine. 

Get out of your head:

Spend time in nature where there is an ever-present harmony that your own nervous system can calibrate itself to. 

Be gentle, Be easy, Be effortless: 

Learning to navigate the experience of life requires skills.  Many of those skills need to be learned and then practiced with vigilance in order for success to be realized. 

Learn to meditate: 

There are many approaches to explore, check out a few and choose one you feel drawn and most connected to, it will open doorways and re- establish the bliss of being within your experience and awareness. 

Rediscover new ways of being: 

There are many ways to take care of the Self.  The person you were exists in the past.  Who you become unfolds in the present moment now.  Practicing a regular routine of “self care” will combat the conditioning you may have experienced creating the space for a new you to be experienced and expressed ~ and a new day and “you” will dawn… 

Recognize Who You Are: 

You have thoughts, but you are not your thoughts.  You have emotions but you are not your emotions.  You have a body, but you are not your body.  Your thoughts, your emotions and your body happen to you.  They are symptoms of Who You Are. 

Find out Who You Are: 

The easiest way to discover Who You Are is to find out what you aren’t.  Be vigilant.  Discriminate between the thoughts and emotions that are happening to you and the awareness that is you. 

Cultivate the value of acceptance: 

It’s ok to be sad.  I’ts ok to be depressed.  It’s ok to feel like you are not in control.  It’s ok to feel needy, unloved, and alone.  Learn to witness those thoughts arise and subside, with judgment, evaluation, or assessment.  Notice the thoughts, all thoughts, come and go. 

Embrace your sensitive side: 

Being sensitive is a gift and talent, it is not a burden.  There will come a time when your sensitivity will access not the pain and suffering of your past but the bliss of the moment as it is, this is the legacy of your past. 

Seek out your own independent support team: 

Surround yourself with people that support and nurture you, people who understand and know what it is like to suffer and people who are successfully navigating their own suffering. 

Explore “alternative therapies” and wellness practices: 

Traditional yoga? Ayurveda? Tai Chi?

Find inspiration in life: 

Music? Art? Dance? Creativity? 

Learn to cultivate and express the creativity that exists within you.    

Keep asking yourself the important questions: 

What are some of the tangible sources of your unhappiness in your life? 

What areas of your life need to be experienced and expressed more fully? 

Are you ignoring an inner message that needs to be responded to?

Are there toxic relationships that need to be avoided or terminated within your experience?

Do you listen to and cultivate the wisdom of your own Soul?

Are there changes occuring in my life that no longer resonate with Who I Am and Who I want to become? 

michael sean symonds ~ ZEN Shredding.   

First…
March 28, 2008

First,  

the  

“I”  

imagines.    

Then the trouble begins.    

With indiscriminate awareness,  

“You” imagine:

  “I’m a Christian, 

“I’m a Muslim, 

“I’m a Hindu, 

“I’m a Jew.   

“You” gain a dogma.  

“You”  

lose 

a  

friend. 

  

“You” buy a story, 

where there can be no glory. 

     

First, 

the  

“I”  

imagaines. 

   

“I’m a Sinner, 

“I’m a Saint. 

“I’m am rich,

“I” am poor,

I am black,

I am white,

I am gay,

I am straight. 

“I” am lonely and unloved. 

   

And, 

  

in your imagined separation, 

“you”

create a path, 

and a process, 

a story of how “you” will return 

to a perfection  

that was never lost. 

  

There is no crevasse to be crossed, 

no karma to be gained. 

There is nowhere to go, 

and

nothing to do. 

Centre the self,

quiet the self,

Become

the

Self.

michael sean symonds             

Painted faces…
March 23, 2008

In the mirror I look,

I see. 

The mask so perfect

It’s only me.

On the street

into the day 

painted faces

make their way.

Each their own 

a smile,

the lack. 

Mask of burden 

don’t break their back.

Young one’s learn,  

each day they play. 

To mask their lives,  

to form,

to pay. 

  A dance in the night,  

a new mask tonight. 

How unique,  

how proud,  

the gift of the shroud.

Transition I see 

the mask a new

taken and molded,  

by one,

by few.

   Mask of falsehood,  

mask of disdain 

lost it’s purity,  

playing the game. 

  A task of challenge,  

the joy of life, 

choosing the face,  

to mask the strife.

   A collection so versatile, 

so large and complete. 

For one so young,

to love, 

to hate,  

to conquer,  

to cheat. 

  In the mirror,

I look,

I see. 

The mask,  

a jail; 

I have to be free! 

michael sean symonds 

another sneak peek ~ ZEN Shredding…
March 20, 2008

The wait is killing me…

: )

here is another excerpt from my “soon to be released” book: 

ZEN Shredding; Insights, Questions and Confessions of a Meditator and Novice Snowboarder on the pursuit of dreams, inspiration, passion and change.

  

In the course of your life you will ask yourself many questions.  

To know where you are heading you just need to listen to the questions you are asking yourself in every moment. 

Sometimes when you ask questions you will receive a response to every situation as it occurs and other times you might need to sit with those questions, to accept the unresolved questions of your life unconditionally as part of the mystery of your life experience.   

Most of us spend our lives looking for answers and happiness outside ourselves and are never really satisfied. Many of us also ask questions that dwell only on the practical necessities of life and as a result live lives of mediocrity.  As you practice asking questions you will learn to navigate not only the mystery of your Soul but also the journey of your life. Knowing which questions to ask is part of the mystery and creative challenge of being. Some of the most important questions you can ask are:  

Who am I?

What do I want? 

Why am I here?  

These three questions will eventually merge to become one; What am I doing for others and how can I contribute more to the planet I live on?  

For many years, I could only come up with the reasons that prevented me from taking my first steps in learning how to snowboard. In my heart I could imagine what it would be like to experience the joy and freedom of sliding down the mountains, I just could never “find” the motivation or time to actually take the step. Prior to learning, I used to walk to the base of the mountain and watch the snowboarders as they shredded their way to the bottom. I’ve also been to San Diego and one of my favorite pastimes there is to go out to the end of a pier and watch the surfers as they wait patiently for the swell of a perfect wave.  

There’s something mystical and meditative about the whole process of simply being with elements of nature. There is serenity in the focused way each surfer reads the potential and possibility within the seed of an oncoming wave. We don’t have an ocean in Whistler, but we do have over 33 feet of snow a year. When you blend the backdrop of jaw dropping scenery, fresh snow and bluebird skies together a canvas of white trails provides adventure and quietude that can elevate your Soul.   

Watching those surfers and snow boarders made me long to be part of it. I’ve always intuitively felt that envy was a positive emotion, a signpost that I had stumbled on a truth that desired expression within the story of my own life experience. Eventually, this feeling became strong enough to motivate me from being an observer to becoming an active participant.  

It’s six am. I’m getting up early not only to meditate but also for some serious snowboard lessons on a Whistler/Blackcomb bunny hill. A couple of years ago I had a false start to my snowboarding adventure. One lesson combined with all too icy surfaces quenched my thirst to be short listed as the next Olympic hopeful.   

This time around it feels different; my adventure unfolds magically providing me with not only the basic skills needed for a potential lifetime of successful riding, but also a boot camp opportunity to return to many insights that have shaped the journey of my own life.  

Conventional reality suggests we live life in linear ways. We go to school, learn specific subjects, graduate, go to college and university and then we start “to live our perfect career and life”. But is this really true? It’s an affront to me that so many people are taught to muffle, ignore and deny the whispers of their own inner voice. It’s sad that many people spend large portions of their life and income denying their inner wisdom that could lead them into a lifetime of meaningful experiences filled with passion and purpose.  

While it took a couple of years for me to move past the initial judgments and fear I had around my first experience of snowboarding, the voice of desire could not be ignored. The commitment to take more lessons helped buffer the doubts and fears that had kept me paralyzed. It was an important reminder to pay attention to what called me and to nourish and cultivate the seeds of my dreams.   

As my learning journey continues in my snowboarding adventure, I often see many novice snowboarders foregoing formal lessons. If they only knew that a few simple insights, suggestions and skills could greatly influence their degree of pain or success. Practice and technique provide the skills necessary to express the unbounded creative potential we were born with.   

By choosing to take lessons based on progression, I was able to navigate my momentary experience in little chunks of challenge that had options within opportunity and clearly defined beginnings, middles and endings. While there were moments where I felt overwhelmed, the support of an instructor and the familiarity of the bunny hill allowed me to learn and play at the same time… 

ZEN Shredding is a culmination and synthesis of my ongoing “Spiritual” journey, expressed as insights, questions and vignettes, filtered through the experience I had of learning to snowboard.  It is my hope these words will inspire you to push your own boundaries, to take risks in the pursuit of your own dreams and journey of life, while also taking the time to discover Who You Are… 

The naked, direct experience of “I” mind…
March 19, 2008

“I’m uncertain and afraid.

“I” sometimes feel lonely. 

“I’m wise and talented.  

“I’m single.

“I’m white.

“I’m a male.

“I’m gay. 

“I’m older, “I’m passionate.

“I” meditate.

“I’m a snowboarder.

“I’m a reader, writer, artist and teacher. 

“I’m a student.

“I’m Canadian.

“I’m a “local”. 

“I’m quiet, sometimes feel angry, and once in great while, sad. 

“I” can be intense, purposeful and driven. 

“I’m playful, introspective and sometimes insecure. 

“I’m a seeker, knower and dreamer. 

“I’m concerned. 

“I’m clear, knowledgeable and innovative. 

“I’m disciplined, sometimes noisy and messy.

“I’m trustworthy and intelligent. 

“I’m searching, finding, forgetting and remembering. 

“I’m healthy, immature and mature. 

“I’m a loner.

“I’m a visionary. 

“I’m an unrequited lover. 

“I” can be argumentative, sometimes dismissive and very efficient.

“I’m compassionate, judgmental and occasionally distant.

“I’m committed, “I’m curious.

“I’m a brother, a son, a friend.

“I” care too much about what people think of me.

“I” drive a Jeep.

“I’m the most creative person “I” know.

“I’m a 21st century Yogi.

“I” love life.  

“I” want to be inspired.  

“I” want to inspire. 

   

*** 

None of these things have anything to do with

Who “I AM”.  

Who I AM

is more than my thoughts, my feelings, my emotions, my perceptions, my associations, my memories and my preferences.

Who I AM

is more than my body and the psychology of the “I” mind. 

If “I” do not use, identify or depend on my thoughts, feelings, emotions, perceptions, associations, memories, preferences or body, then

Who AM I?

If “I” do not use, identify or depend on my thoughts, feelings, emotions, perceptions, associations, memories, preferences or body, then what reason do “I” need to define myself?  

    

Who I AM

is infinite, unbounded, and immortal.

Who I AM

is beyond definition, detail or description. 

As soon as “I” define myself, “I” lose myself in the details. 

The details are happening to “me”, or not.   

“I” am more than a detail, a description, an experience or a story. 

The experience and story is happening to “me”, or not. 

I AM  not the story that is spoken or unspoken. 

The story ~ all stories, are contained within “me”.

I AM 

the knower, the knowing and the known…    

The mechanics of synchronicity…
March 15, 2008

The Universe is in constant communication with us.  This eternal conversation of unbounded clues and cues, a resource of energy and information, is freely available to anyone whose attention is lively, and can be used in any moment to support us as we navigate the varied terrain of our life.  When the mind and body are quiet, when we are attentive to those clues and cues, we have the ability to navigate decisions and choices in the moment, we have the ability to make the “right” response to every situation as it occurs…

Most human beings are unfortunately distracted into the noise and nonsense of the foreground of life that overshadows the innate, inherent connection we all have to the mystery of our existence and Who We Are.  It is very common for those pursuing the path of awakening to experience a noticeable increase and occurrence in meaningful coincidence or synchronicity in their life. 

While many may discount coincidence or perceive synchronicity as somewhat of unnatural phenomena, it is in fact a normal and perfectly natural experience. It is a capacity that can be cultivated and enhanced for the benefit of oneself and the lives you touch. While many dream of more “personal conversations with God”, we must be willing to recognize that the Universe has infinite ways of communicating the necessary information to those who are willing to receive it; most of them are non verbal.  You don’t need to be an advanced psychic or adept to experience “your own personal conversation with God”.  There are however a few principles that if practiced can help elevate the experience, expression and understanding of synchronicity in your life, to open up the most meaningful conversation you will ever have.  

Principle #1     There is no separation, there is no distinction.  Everything is Consciousness, nothing exists outside of Consciousness. 

The “I” imagines that it and others are separate, distinct expressions of the creative process that exist independently from all other things, causes and conditions.  The “I” assumes and asserts its independence and, through the psychology of the mind, projects itself falsely “as an island” into the world of form and phenomena.  In order for “something” to occur in the Universe the entire Universe must conspire for that “something” to happen or not.  Nothing exists independently of its causes or conditions. 

 Our existence is orchestrated with infinite finesse and correlation; everything is correlated with everything else.  Consciousness is defined by interdependence not independence.  Synchronicity reflects back to us the symptoms of this connection and correlation.  Synchronicity is a Universal whisper; a hint and invitation to surrender and engage the flow.  

Principle #2     Resist the temptation to identify and take ownership of your perceived reality. 

When the magic of synchronicity begins to express itself in your life, the “I” might be tempted to assume that it is the cause of such phenomena.  Within the web of creation, all events, people and things dance in the light of “the creative process”.  The mirage of the phenomenal world is so strong that the “I” will attempt to take ownership of circumstances, situations, people and things; it will imagine that it can influence or control what appears to be “reality”.  

Conventional reality is based on things.  Absolute reality is based on a web of information and energy, the idea of “one” substance not two.  The “I” has no independent ability unto itself to create or influence a thing; ideas, thoughts, motivations, actions, inspiration, creativity or genius itself while appearing as “I” manufactured, actually only “occurs” or “happens” to the “I”.   The “I” receives the impulse of the idea, thought, motivation, action or inspiration and then falsely claims ownership where there is none. 

You are the one who is having a desire, the desire is not you.  You are the one who is having the idea, the idea is not the real you.  You are the one who is being inspired, engaging creativity, or demonstrating genius; you are neither the art nor the genius who created the art, they are contained within you.   The expression of synchronicity can be enhanced by acknowledging that “you” are simply a thread within a vast web of existence.  You are the recipient and benefactor in a Universe where there is no source.  Are you ready to listen?

Principle #3     Become clear, aware and detached around the most important and meaningful intentions “you” have for your life. 

The mind is a valuable tool to use when clarifying what is meaningful and important.  When “your” mind is synchronized to the mind of the “Universe” your desires become the desires of the Universe.  When “your” mind is calibrated to the mind of the “Universe” your ideas, dreams and inspirations become the ideas, dreams and inspirations of the “Universe”.  Nourish and cultivate the intentions and desires “you” have for “your” life.  The impulse of every idea, dream and inspiration “you” have is the very life throb of the Universe expressing through “you”, “as you”.    

Principle #4     Life is an opportunity to nurture the value of relationship; “one” relationship with many flavors.

As you nurture the value of relationship in your life, beginning with your Self, you will recognize the primary vehicle for the expression of synchronicity in your life.  Through your connection to people, places and experiences you will gain the necessary information, ideas, insights and opportunities to elevate your life experience to more intimate levels of experience.  Through people, places and experiences doorways will be opened and closed revealing the necessary information to elevate your life experience.  

Principle #6     Seek happiness outside the experience of another’s approval or disapproval.

As long as you continue to defer yourself to some external source or power, you will continue to suffer.  Learning to appreciate and cultivate the innate connection you have to the Universe where all your needs are met allows you to relinquish the need to depend on another’s approval or disapproval for your needs to be met. 

Principle #7     Synchronicity provides the opportunity to experience inspiration, fulfillment or closure to circumstances, situations, experiences and events in your life.

You are the source of both suffering and joy in your life.  When you take responsibility for recognizing that you are not your thoughts, memories, emotions, perceptions and associations you will experience profound levels of detachment that provide the subjective experience of freedom you have been looking for.  Synchronicity provides the preamble for inspiration, fulfillment or closure to be expressed in your life. 

Principle #8     Synchronicity opens new doorways of possibility; your “next step” in life. 

Within any moment there are perceivable and unperceivable choices to be made.  The “I” cannot fathom nor formulate the outcome of any experience.  The “I” can only ever speculate a projection.  Engaging the element of synchronicity in ones life is an opportunity to step into a field of infinite possibilities that could never be anticipated by the “I” mind.  However uncertain the moment may be, synchronicity is a cue or clue to unlock a doorway to infinitely more dynamic possibilities that could never be imagined. 

Principle #9     Synchronicity provides greater levels of clarity and conviction to the ever changing, ever evolving meaning and purpose of your life. 

The body-mind is hardwired to organize chaos within the heart of a Universe whose essence is chaos.  Synchronicity provides the body/mind with a reference point, the milestones and weigh stations of integration that allow you to navigate your life experience with more effortless ease.  In a Universe that can never be rationally defined, the expression and experience of synchronicity in your life provides you with a glimpse of eternity and the infinite organizing power of consciousness; an inheritance, your birthright.  

Principle #10     Synchronicity is an opportunity to investigate (ask questions) or integrate (”heal/transform”) premature thoughts, memories, emotions, associations and perceptions we have about the story our life and life in general.  Do they determine Who We Are or do they inform us to Who We Are?

In silence the mind remembers, the soul awakens.  When the mind and body are quiet attention settles into Self awareness.  You don’t have to figure it out.  In silence you can find what was never lost; everything will fall into place.  Everything you need is here and now.  Be playful when idea’s flicker into your awareness.  Allow; don’t judge.  Explore don’t resist.  Remain flexible and follow the thread of synchronicity in your life.  Embrace new information, new ideas and new ways of being to be expressed.  Reach into yourSelf; reach out to another.  The body-mind is an instrument that can easily become out of tune with love.  Take care of yourSelf, nurture yourSelf, become yourSelf.

“The perfect man has no self;

the spiritual man has no achievement;

the sage has no name.”

Chuang Tzu       

Meaningful Coincidence and Synchronicity…
March 13, 2008

… The experience and expression of synchronicity or meaningful coincidence in our life is an important affirmation or milestone in the direction our life is heading.  A few of us have decided to pursue directions and paths in life that fall outside of the “normal” conventional way of living, thinking, being and doing.  We have many labels, philosophies or teachings that contribute to this inner transformation that vary, but synchronicity is a common thread that appears in the canvas of our experience and the journey of restoring the memory of wholeness and inner perfection.   

Many of us have made choices to significantly and sometimes painfully change the way we do life.  Controversial decisions are made with regard to career, relationships and family that often rock the boat of our sanity in what we call a normal sane world.  Synchronicity and the enhanced experience and expression of this phenomena in our life, is a confirmation that the courageous choices, changes, decisions and commitments we have made; our attentiveness to following our inner voice, guidance or intuitions has opened a doorway to the magic and mystery of the art Being.   

Where the “I” only sees distinction, separation and the perceived laws of cause effect in life, synchronicity is an affirmation of the unspoken, interdependence of all things.  It is the realization that for any event, circumstance or situation to occur in life requires the cooperation of the entire Universe to happen.  It is the recognition and realization that all circumstance however meaningful or insignificant to the mind are ultimately orchestrated at a level and scope that is beyond the comprehension and reach of the “I” and mind. 

The personal has always wanted to become intimate with the impersonal.  Human beings have many attachments, expectations, rules and regulations around how this process will unfold or be experienced. Synchronicity is the whisper of a Universe that wants to attract our attention, to reveal what is already present within the scope of our attention and awareness.  When we choose to become more alert to the experience of meaningful coincidence or synchronicity in our lives, we do not need to be dependent on the prophets, priests, or teachings of others to embrace the intimacy we have hungered for. 

When we pay attention, notice, or investigate the occurrence of synchronicity in our life we have the ability to accelerate the restoration of Who We Are, while also engaging the flow of effortlessness ease to be experienced and expressed within our life.   

Recognition of the occurrence of synchronicity is a universal invitation for us to:  

Realize there is no separation, there is no distinction. 

Life is ultimately an opportunity to nurture the value of relationship that already exists, the interdependence and inter connectedness of all things. 

The importance and need of becoming more clear, aware and detached around the most important and meaningful intentions we have for our life. 

An invitation to practice or abandon the need for another’s approval or disapproval in order for us to be happy. 

The opportunity to experience inspiration and fulfillment, completion or closure to a circumstances, situations, experiences or events in our life. 

A new open doorway to possibilities of greater levels of the subjective experience of freedom; our “next step” in life. 

Greater clarity and conviction to the ever changing, ever evolving meaning and purpose of your life. 

An opportunity to investigate (ask questions) or integrate (“heal/transform”) premature thoughts, memories, emotions, associations and perceptions we have about the story our life and life in general.  Do they determine Who We Are or do the inform us to Who We Are?     

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