You are not your
emotions; you are the one who is having emotions.
Most people have not learned to appreciate the true value of their emotions. To embrace your emotions is to engage your energy ~ keeping it in motion. To deny your e-motions prevents them in leading you to what is important. Denial traps energy from motion. E-motions are not the language of your Soul, they are however one of your most valuable tools to maintaining a healthy connection with your Soul, a stepping stone and guide to clarifying your direction. You are not your emotions you are the one who is having emotions. Learn to love, embrace and understand your emotions.
Understanding the spectrum of our emotions is a learned skill. In the west we are accustomed to responding to our emotions in one of two ways: expression or repression. Expression is not necessarily any improvement on suppression and in most cases neither stance will lead you to emotional resolution or integration, let alone allow you to discover Who You Are.
More often or not expression of our emotions is very unconscious; jealousy remains jealous, anger remains angry and prolonged sadness can turn to suffering. Repression usually requires a substitute, an activity or behavior that inevitably does not contribute to our total, well being. Repressions repercussion, is that we deny ourselves access to a deeper level of understanding and awareness in our ability to access the innate, ever-present, inherent wisdom of the Soul.
There is a third option however; to elevate our way of being in the world, to become familiar with the underlying currants of our emotional body by learning to witness the ebb and flow of their movement through our awareness. As we learn to “notice” their movement, as we learn to become aware of the rise and fall of our emotional landscape, without placing any evaluation, judgment or significance on those emotions, we begin to see that all emotions have beginnings, middles and endings. We begin to see that behind the curtain of our emotional spectrum, we can find a subjective freedom and peace that lies outside the usual stance of identification only. With awareness, we can allow the impulse of our emotion to move freely through our nervous system unobstructed, so that those emotions can be processed, digested and integrated to completion.
Without awareness; without being present to our emotions, we will fail to see or experience the connection and interdependence that our thoughts have to our emotions, and vice versa. When we fail to understand that behind every emotion is a potentially paralyzing belief, conclusion or decision that was, or is being made, we will never recognize the impact and influence those emotions have on the subjective experience and expression of our life. We lose touch with a valuable resource and guide to enhance and elevate our well being.
You are not your thoughts or your emotions; you are the one who is having those thoughts and emotions. Better said, those thoughts, feelings, beliefs, emotions, associations, perceptions and memories are happening not in you, but “on you”.
In a worse case scenario, the inner wisdom to Soul is temporarily incapacitated as we become more and more overshadowed by our emotions. Lacking the wisdom of experience, we fail to navigate their experience, and we lose ourselves to the obsessive, compulsive stance of the mind, which only further affirms our erroneous identification to those emotions and their occurrence.
In a best case scenario our pain and suffering can be “leveraged” as a pathway to our emotional well being; we can touch, taste and experience the wholeness that lies on the other side of those unprocessed infantile concepts, conclusions and trances. Without exception, all emotions can be used to guide, trace and reveal the expression of our false core ~ the person we imagine ourselves to be in the world.
In tracing those emotions, in learning to witness those emotions, we have a chance to reveal our essential, inner, core. As we learn to develop the skills of emotional resolution it creates the space for resilience to replace repression or unprocessed expression, which so often accompanies and dominates the ups and downs of our life experience. By using those emotions as pathways, rather than allowing them to use us, we learn to navigate with more ease, the ebb and flow of our life; we engage a valuable tool with which to reconnect to our ultimate, whole Self.
I think it’s important to emphasize that being emotionally present for your self or another is not about doing, it’s more about Being. Being without any evaluation, judgment or significance to what is happening with those emotions. Our emotions become windows of opportunity, a chance to discover and reveal the fabric of our own, perceived, limited, individual self.
The degree to which you can be emotionally present with yourself will reflect the degree to which you can be emotionally present with another. To be present with another, to give another your full attention to another, without distraction, is the greatest gift you could bring to the present moment. Being present to the moment allows you to relate essence to essence, core to core; Being loses itself in Being.
To realize through awareness, our emotions are not Who We Are, but only symptoms, hints and expressions of an aspect of our inner world and where it appears to be going, allows us the ability to move from individual consciousness, to witness consciousness. The comfort in developing an experiential understanding of embracing those emotions by learning to witness those emotions rather than judging or evaluating them, is not only an important steeping stone to our emotional freedom, but also, a pathway to revealing our real Self that lies beyond the trials and tribulations that often arise from those emotions…
What can you learn from your emotions, what feelings do you judge the most?
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