Insight #65 ~ Zen Shredding…

 

It’s good to have boundaries.  

 

 Healthy boundaries support you in the expression of your authenticity. Setting a limit on what you accept or do not accept is simply a way of honoring your preferences for Being in the moment.  Learn to play safe by having and supporting your own healthy boundaries.

Extended commentary:

I cannot think of many strategies for creating a healthier lifestyle and the realization of fulfilling relationships than having healthy boundaries; by surrounding yourself with people who recognize and honor not only their boundaries, but also your own.  Clarifying and expressing your boundaries can be an important and meaningful step on the road to living an authentic life and the defined sense of self you take out into the world.

Throughout life, most discover the person they imagine themselves to be through multiple experiences and circumstances that reveal clues to the sense of self they want to be.  Boundaries are a foundational way of being that support the expression of who you are while on that journey called life.  They are expressions of the conscious and unconscious commitments or vows of internal allegiance that the “I” has made to itself at thinking, being, doing and having level.

As a tool for growth and expression, the process of unraveling or becoming aware of your personal boundaries (or lack thereof) ultimately can serve as a way to enhance the space and freedom for you to simply be.  Within this space or fertile field we can cultivate and elevate our sense of “I” ness; we can demonstrate with new behaviors how we take care of ourselves or not.  The conscious or unconscious presence or absence of boundaries essentially gives permission or “teaches” others, how they can treat us or not.

The irony of boundaries is that we all have them, the “good” and “bad”  make up essential components of the modus operandi of the “I” and how that “I” operates in the world. What is most important within this frame of reference is that we become aware of the boundaries ( the commitments and vows of allegiance that we have made to our selves about the “I”) that do not support our wellbeing or the wellbeing of others. 

Said another way; we likely treat ourselves and others, the way we were treated.  If that way of being is healthy and nurturing, our well-being and the well-being of others will be enhanced and elevated to new levels of experience.  If that way of being was or is unhealthy, our well-being and the well-being of others will be minimized and even dismissed however unconsciously, as unimportant.

Wrapped up in the stories we tell ourselves: about how we see ourselves and the world, about how we imagine the world see’s us, are the clues and gaps that serve as barriers to prevent a deeper experience of wellbeing; necessary ingredients that must be looked at, investigated, practiced or discarded, at all costs. 

In the process of the practiced realization of our essential boundaries, there may also come a time in the comfort and confidence of those established boundaries, that one realizes there are no boundaries; that they were simply a tool to nurture a sense of self through perceived obstacles and perceived growth; a point of realization is made that there was in fact no self that needed to be nurtured…

   

What boundaries do you need to honor in your life?

 

To order a copy of ZEN Shredding please visit:

http://www.trafford.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?BookId=SKU-000161942

OR

Check out “Living The Dream”, the gift book version of the slideshow/movie that is available to view free on You tube or the ZEN Shredding website; an inspiring read with full color photo’s of Whistler/Blackcomb Alpine…

http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/322380

AND

When you get a chance, please visit the home of my latest work:

 Soulananda;

The Essentials of a Good Life…

 http://www.soulananda.com

 

(c) Copyright – Michael Sean Symonds.  All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

 

 

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