Most human beings want something from each other, and in that wanting we suffer. For every want there is an assumption, a projection of need; that we somehow lack something, that we are somehow incomplete. In most cases, we want what we imagine and perceive we don’t have, and our attention is deprived from noticing what we do have.
It’s easy to forget the background of Being, when we allow ourselves to be overshadowed by the wanting; when our attention becomes fixated on that wanting. The only real solution to our perceived suffering, and the end to irrational wanting, is to bring the background of Being, to the foreground of our life, through the use of attention.
Presently, and for the most part, it’s easy to live life being caught up in the seductive foreground of our life experience, forever seeking the endless opportunities and desires, dreams and aspirations that life has to offer. There’s nothing inherently wrong with these movements, as long as we don’t lose touch with our essence in that process; as long as those movements or impulses, do not lead us astray; as long as we do not get caught up in believing that it is the foreground of life that is itself real, thus distracting us from what actually is real, permanent and true ~ the background of Being.
We can drown ourselves in the wanting. Radical transformation is to see things as they are, not as we imagine, want, or were told them to be. Under the surface of wanting, can lie the perception of deep wounds of neglect, hurt, judgment and need. It is not the object of our experience or circumstance, our want or need that must be reached, touched, experienced or had but instead, the wound of perceived separation that inherently drives innumerable quests that can fill a lifetime.
Often, in the desperation of our wanting; in our forgetfulness, we lose touch with the fact of our inherent perfection; we allow ourselves to be hypnotized by the circumstance of social conditioning. Our ultimate salvation lies not in thought or deed, understanding or belief, but in the realization of our essential core.
Realization can never be stabilized when our focus is caught up in the story of our perceived imperfection, and an “I” that seeks to correct or change a moment of time that no longer exists. Of necessity, our attention needs to be shifted from the story of our want, to the one who is wanting.
As we settle our attention onto the one who is wanting, the one who is hurting, the one who is unloved, or the one who is in joy, pulling it even further back, prior to the want itself, it is possible to notice that the real “you” is not the product of a projection, feeling or perception; the spell of wanting can be broken…